A childrens therapist once told us how some kids don't pick up social cue's and these kids have to learn them by being taught.
Things that come naturally to most don't to these kids.
I never thought dogs could lack that ability too!
And then came along Teddy who doesn't seem to understand how to interact with others in normal dog fashion.
He is a beautiful all white Samoyed. He is a Prince. Prince Theodore in fact.
When I met his very nice parents I knew they were very motivated to find him a place, but as we talked I got the feeling that they were not sharing his whole personality with me. After all they had to leave the next day for a cancelled and then reinstated vacation. ( I should have known right away when they dropped him off and hidden at the bottom of the bag was a muzzle)
At first I thought he was retarded (I know not very PC) OK, Mentally Challenged!
He is not an aggressive dog and he really likes everyone.
Although everyone once they get to know Teddy are just simply annoyed by him. Don't you know people like that too?!
First day with him:
I have never seen a dog who can not sleep at all for an extended period of time.
First day we had him, here at 4pm and after playing non stop in the back yard, that evening when all were in bed (except me) whined, barked and paced until 5am the next morning.
The few times he sat down to rest he never closed his eyes, I know because I was on the sofa with my arm around him trying to console him and when he settled away from me I watched hoping to finally get some shuteye myself!
He has been here 3 days and it seems like 30:
After twice smiling at me and peeing on the side of my bed and not understanding when I am mad at him, I now make a mad dash to the back door when I hear his little panting voice in the morning(6,6:30 or 7 am)
Keep in mind that I do not scream at the dogs, or hit them ever. I will tap there noses with one finger and say bad dog.
Our house although often with kids visiting is never overly loud or crazy.
Teddy never seemed scared at all, even the cats think he is annoying.
My one cat sits at the top of the stairs from the basement, concealed by the partial open door just waiting.
Never have I seen him do this to any other dog before. But he just waits for Teddy to walk by to take a swipe at him, knowing that Teddy is no threat.
I think the cat enjoys it.
Teddy doesn't know how to play with others:
Molly my dog is the most patient, submissive dog I know. But even she got sick of Teddies incessant chewing of her neck and chest.
She tried to get Teddy to play by running him ragged(and she did). Finally Molly just started to run away from him and try to hide behind me.
I had to separate them at times.
So it took a few days but now Teddy will play tug the rope with Molly (Eureka!) even though he prefers to gnaw at her neck.
Molly actually when sick of it will now bear her teeth and nip at his nose. Does he then stop, not really, remember the not picking up cue's thing!
Other things:
Teddy broke down the gate
Teddy barks for no reason
Teddy piddles when the door is closed so I can dress in peace.
Teddy drinks water and the whole kitchen floor gets wet.
BUT:
Teddy comes in such a pretty package it is so hard to stay mad at him!
And honestly I had a child just like him(that is why I know the therapist and many after him) so that does endear me to him.
I blew up last night at my whole family and realized there was some Teddy stress involved so now I am much better.
Teddy and I sit here writing this and he now settles and sleeps. We are making breakthroughs here.
To all you other pet care takers. I feel your pain, and joy and tears and laughter.
Keep up the good work, and as I often say to myself, "Be patient and caring and it always gets better and always is rewarding."
Dara